Misunderstood- improperly interpreted; misconstrued; not appreciated or given sympathetic understanding.
Story of my life!
I'm outgoing, sympathetic, sensitive, bold, aggressive, upfront, adventurous, courageous and amazing :-) all these descriptive words describe me, Rachel as misunderstood.
do you hate being misunderstood? Heck, who doesn’t? i think being misunderstood is my biggest frustration. i just hate the feeling that someone doesn’t know the truth about me. i hate it when someone has a stereotype or preconceived misconception about me that is totally false. i mean, i’m a pretty fun chick, but when all this needless stuff goes on, i get agitated. can you tell i was misunderstood today? lol...
on the flip side, i think the best feeling in the world is to be understood. there’s something about knowing that someone just knows you. yanno? there’s something about knowing that no matter what you do or say, that someone knows who you really are. it’s really comforting i think.
Being misunderstood makes you feel isolated. I can't even lie and say it doesn't hurt my feelings. *LET ME CLARIFY: WHAT YOU SAY ABOUT ME DOESN'T HURT MY FEELINGS. THE FACT THAT YOU MISUNDERSTOOD WHAT I SAID DOES.* Everyone wants to feel "accepted" in SOME way...no exceptions...and being misunderstood is somewhat unfair because its JUDGMENTAL in a sense. You judge me without knowing all the facts, with your assumptions, by ignoring my point of view.
Ive always grown up saying what was on my mind. My parents always told me to say what I feel and to never let anyone "gag" me in a sense. As I child I was opinionated and was very good at stating it. They may not have expected me to turn into what I am now, but HERE I AM...
The worse part of being misunderstood is when you say something that's taken negatively, but you didn't really mean what you said in the way the receiver perceived it. It's a potentially dangerous situation because feelings can get hurt, no matter how many times you explain that you didn't mean what you said in the way the person thought you meant it.
I have a habit of blurting things out sometimes without taking the time to think about possible consequences. Words are so powerful. It doesn't matter in what form they leave your body -whether through your lips as spoken syllables or through your fingers for the purposes of being read - they have the power to change things. Things I think about is how is the other person going to interpret what I say? Even if I didn't mean what I said negatively, there's always a possibility it could be taken that way.
Here are some factors that I feel contribute to misunderstandings:
1. Sometimes we are misunderstood becuz ppl don't hear us clearly.
This is the most simple cause, and can generally be cleared up with further explanation.
2. Sometimes we are misunderstood by people who have hidden motives that cloud their ability to understand what we are doing or saying.
Ppl just automatically are evil lol and perceive us as "enemies" before even hearing us out. so they're gonna think "ugh, ur rude, mean etc.."
3. Sometimes we feel misunderstood when in reality others understand us better than we think they do.
Self-Deception is a mutha, huh? lol
I truly try to work on these things DAILY. I was told being misunderstood shouldn't be a "cop out" becuz that really means ur being difficult and uncooperative. THAT'S NOT ME, PPL.
So, as I state how "unfair" I feel about being misunderstood, I also must state what can I do on my side to help the situation...
1. Walk in God's light.
that's self explanatory itself...
2. Accept misunderstandings only if we are willing to work in the best interests of those who misunderstand us.
This one kinda sucks lol but its an important test of our motives. Jesus was misunderstood by the Jews and yet He was willing to die for them. Some people are willing to be silent about being misunderstood, and they think they are following Jesus' example. But they take a "time will prove you wrong" attitude, or they resort to sulking or being uncooperative, or they remove themselves as far as possible from those who misunderstand them.
3. We must love the truth.
bottom line: We must rather be corrected than always proved right. I honestly hate reading stuff like this cuz I KNOW its right, but I get that "but its not fair!" attitude and in the end, I know its incorrect.
In conclusion, if you are misunderstood, I offer this advice to you:
Pray for those who misunderstand us-this sucks lol
Be kind and respectful toward those who slight us-I can do that :-)
Seek the good of those who judge us wrongly-huh? lol
Protect the reputation of those who slander us-ur kidding, right?
Privately work in the best interests of those who are working against us, and purposely avoid telling them what we do for them-Im a work in progress! geesh!
Thank the Lord! lol
I kinda got deep on yall, huh? well, sorry..out of the belly.....u know the rest lol
I would love for you guys to weigh in on my post! want to hear what u gotta say!
I have come to believe over and over again that what is most important to me must be spoken, made verbal and shared, even at the risk of having it bruised or misunderstood!!!
now RUNTELDAT!!!
:-)
@therealmrsjames
